Traditionally, men think of sex as
being separate from love. They are more likely than women
to think of sex as recreation, a conquest or fun.
Their affairs are often sporadic and
opportunistic. The affair may be as simple as a single
sexual encounter while travelling or an occasional tryst
while their wife is out of town.
Wives may be surprised to find out that their husbands
may have sex affairs because of the husband's sexual
problems. While men may encounter sexual problems with
their wife, they many have no difficulty when they are
with someone with whom they have no emotional
involvement.
Top
7 Reasons Men Have Affairs
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| 1. |
Sexual variety |
he enjoys more than one sex
partner |
| 2. |
More sex |
greater quantity of sex |
| 3. |
Opportunity |
a woman is available for sex and
he believes he won't get caught |
| 4. |
Challenge |
he enjoys the chase and the
catch |
| 5. |
Seduction |
he enjoys flirting and romance |
| 6. |
Wife unavailable |
his wife is out of town, working
late or has a recent pregnancy |
| 7. |
Sexual dysfunction |
he has difficulty performing
sexually with his wife but not with other
partners |
Dr. Halper interviewed 4,126 male
business leaders, executives and professionals and
reported the highest rate of affairs garnered from any
survey: 88% of the men questioned acknowledged their
involvement in at least one affair.
A 1995 Canadian study by Daniel Pérusse showed that
single men with high income, education and job status had
much busier sex lives than men with lower status. The
high status men had sex with more different women more
often than any other group of men.
The highest incidence of affairs is found among the
following occupational groups: businessmen, professionals
such as attorneys, physicians and dentists, executives,
salesmen, pilots, truck drivers and sailors.
Multiple studies report that men with high incomes are
more likely than men with lower incomes to have affairs.
Research and anecdotal evidence show that affluent men
have the greatest number of sexual partners before and
during their marriages.
Men
hire prostitutes
The Kinsey Institute New Report on Sex,
published in 1991, says that one-third of the men they
surveyed acknowledged having sex with a prostitute at
least once in their lives. Oral sex was the first choice
and intercourse was the second. While most encounters
with prostitutes are strictly sexual, some prostitutes
report that their clients want conversation and
affection.
The early Kinsey study of 1953 reported that two-thirds
of men said they had been to a prostitute, which may be
related to the number of men in military service during
World War II who were stationed away from home.
The number of men having sex with prostitutes is further
evidence of the importance of casual sex to men. Men find
sex with a prostitute to be something very different from
sex with someone they care about. Some men feel more free
and more relaxed when there is no emotional relationship
with their sexual partner.
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