Bridge Affairs
Bridge
Affairs
Bridge affairs occur during transitions. They happen between
people who want casual, fun and ego-enhancing experiences. They
are likely to occur during positive transitions such as a
promotion, award, the spouse starting a new or better job, the
birth of a child or a move to a new home. Often with success
there is a new sense of competence and a desire for a special
reward, to be with someone who is appreciative, easy to please
and fun.
Bridge affairs also occur during bad times, when the affairee
wants someone who will support, comfort and understand the
affairee's failure, disappointment and distress.
Bridge affairs are short-lived, lasting less than a year, and
seldom disrupts the marriage. Only a few are discovered.
Bridge affairs provide a safety - a sense of options and choices,
sense of belonging - sense of inclusion, loved and be loved -
sense of acceptance, and self-esteem - sense of appreciation.
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